Wo-man

I respect the struggles you have overcome to be the woman you are today. I support you in your journey to deal with life how best you can. I empathize with you for all the injustice you have been asked to deal with and the burdens you have been asked to bury.

Wo-man

You are different, you are unique, you have been created to love yourself and give that overflowing love to the people around you. You care with all your heart, love with all your might, breathe and sacrifice for others around you.

Wo-man

You see, you hear…


I started wearing my jilbab in my final year in University, it was a clothing I had admired for so long, but was eventually able to wear in my final year. Even though I was a *jilbabee* in Uni, I really wasn’t close to other jilbab sisters bacause there were very few gathering of sisters. The Hostel mosques were all closed, so there was really no avenue to meet and interact with other sisters, except for a few “salams” I exchanged on my way to and from lectures...

For some sisters I met, Subhanallah, I was shocked at the hate…


https://www.abc.net.au/news/2017-04-24/confronting-domestic-violence-in-islam/8458116?nw=0

“Just have Sabr, it’s sunnah to have patience whenever any evil befall us, just be prayerful, pray Tahajjud, make du’a for him, you know, put him in your prayers, he’s gonna change bla bla bla…” Those are the words!!! Those are the words that are emotionally chaining muslim women to their abusers. Men that are supposed to love them, respect them and protect them for the sake of Allah.

It really does hurt to listen to muslim women who have internalized these toxic lectures. Women forced to believe their reality can never change, and there is little or nothing that…


https://www.pinterest.com/pin/638807528394102704/

My Ustadha asked me to translate Qur’an 94 verse 5 “Fa inna ma’al usri yusra”, I replied, “Indeed, a̶f̶t̶e̶r̶ hardship comes ease”, she swiftly corrected me…“the verse is not “Fa inna ba’adil usri yusra”, but “Fa inna ma’al usri yusra” (In Quranic arabic “ma’a” means “with”, “ba’ad” means “after”). In Tafsir ibn Kathir, this verse is explained as thus, “Whatever troubles are encountered by the creation, Allah always provides a relief with it. The relief does not merely come ̶a̶f̶t̶e̶r̶ the difficulty; it is provided ***with *** it.”

It is very hard to seek relief in the midst of trials…


The belief that “the home” is the safest place for a girl child, hence if she goes out of the home, to school, to work and get raped, hurt and/or…


https://www.stocksy.com/1216854/happy-young-muslim-couple-in-the-park

How often have you heard “If he has the deen, he will be good to you”…?Sounds true, right…? See, striving for one’s deen is such a personal journey, personal enough that Allah would not ask you about someone else’s deeds, but “you, yours and yourself” alone. So, why does “if he has the deen, he will be good to you” premise not hold for a number of muslim men…?

When someone with whose religion ***and*** character you are satisfied asks to marry your daughter, comply with his request. If you do not do so, there will be corruption and great…


https://english.khamenei.ir/news/7361/Women-s-Education-Before-and-After-the-Islamic-Revolution-A

“I see a lot of muslim sisters studying for a masters degree, why would any good muslimah be pursuing a masters? These women are supposed to be home, teaching their “shidren” the deen, and they are just roaming around doing one yeye degree. I also see some sisters studying engineering courses, especially electrical engineering. What does a good muslim sister need electrical engineering for..?!!!!!!”

I got a hold of my phone and deleted the “sermon” IMMEDIATELY. Subhanallah, these types of “sermons” are the ones some brothers listen to, and they come to twitter to give fatwas. …


https://eamamoosa.com/feminism-within-the-islamic-paradigm-ft-qahera/

“Muslim women who demand for respect from their husbands are not different from kafirs, and are in fact very dangerous to the deen of their husbands. Husbands of these women have to take extra caution, lest their wives lead them into Jahannam (Hell-Fire)” said a “scholar”…E shock you ?, E shock me too…

Wonder why there are so many misogynistic fatwas upgrading the level of the muslim men while exponentially degrading that of the muslim women, or why many muslim men will never agree that there is any misogyny in the muslim community, let alone seek knowledge and speak against…


https://mvslim.com/yes-im-a-muslim-and-a-feminist/

“Women are not meant to be battered or treated like sh*t, everyone deserves to feel respected and honored. There’s nothing normal about domestic violence, men are not toddlers, they do know what is right, and should be held responsible for their wrongdoings.”

That was all I told her, the next thing I heard, “you are a feminist”. Well, if that sums up what I am trying to say, then sure, I am one…I shied away from that term for a long time, because it slowly turned into a negative connotation.

Like every “ism” or religion or point of view, there…


https://www.chronicle.com/article/is-death-bad-for-you/

Yah Allah, is this my turn… to go?

Every inch of my body felt the dead silence, the type of silence that succeeds a devastating turbulence. It was midnight, somewhere in the eastern part of Nigeria. I was on my way back from a journey, sleeping peacefully in the trailer. There was excessive shaking and screaming, I felt my body being tossed up and down, left, right and center, I knew an accident was happening that very moment, but I just couldn’t process nothing!

After a few minutes of turmoil, it registered in my brain. “Raheemat, the trailer you boarded…

Raheemat Rafiu

This girl is thriving!

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